Friday, August 19, 2011


Why is it that our schools are so busy providing our teenagers with so-called "sex education," but the word "love" is never mentioned and discussions about conscious parenting are completely absent?

Why is it that our culture is encouraging young people to engage in fleshy, indulgent sexuality rather than teaching them about the spiritual, psychological, and life-long ramifications of haphazard sex?

Isn't haphazard sex leading to billions of unwanted pregnancies, unwanted children, and millions of teenage girls having to undergo abortions or become single parents?

Wouldn't it be better if we busted out of this toxic "program" and made an effort to teach our kids instead how easy it is to get a handle on their carnal impulses, and how important it is to bring forth life in a conscious, loving way?

Just sayin.....

"...Prenatal and early post-natal stages determine to a very large extent our biological and psychological make-up. That is... all kinds of medical conditions, including heart disease, diabetes, and many, many other immune diseases, are really the result of some very early stresses in life...

Our ability to relate to other people, our ability to love and be loved... are already determined in prenatal and early postnatal life. And so it follows that in these early pre and postnatal stages, we can provide a unique and best opportunity for the primary prevention of most medical and psychological disorders...

Thomas Verny

Pre and Peri-Natal Psychology: An Introduction, Part 2 Thomas R. Verny MD

Here is the solution to our dilemma...

By Jeanice Barcelo, M.A.

Current research indicates that youth all across America are increasingly at risk for a variety of social and emotional disorders including drug and alcohol abuse, eating disorders, behavioral problems, learning disabilities, severe depression, suicide, violent behavior, criminal behavior, and much, much more. As if all of these things weren’t bad enough, young people are also at risk for premature sexual activity, unwanted teen pregnancy, single or repeated abortions, becoming unwed mothers and/or giving birth to unwanted children.

Much to our misfortune, there is not a single school (that I am aware of) in the whole of the United States that has taken on the responsibility of teaching young adults about the principles of conscious procreation and parenting. Although “sex education” has made its way into high school classrooms, truly meaningful discussions about the spiritual implications of haphazard sexual behavior, and/or about the importance of conceiving babies consciously, gestating them in loving and trauma-free wombs, birthing them gently, and parenting them consciously, are sadly absent.

As a result, millions (perhaps billions) of children are being gestated in wombs filled with fear, shame, and resentment, and birthed in environments that are drenched with trauma and toxicity.

According to a study done by William Emerson (expert in pre- and perinatal psychology and pioneer in the field of birth trauma healing), 95% of American hospital births are considered traumatic, with 50% of these being rated as moderately traumatic, and 45% being rated as severely traumatic. Early trauma has been shown to affect the development of the fetal and infant brain, nervous system, neuro-chemistry, organs, physiology, psychology and consciousness. Early traumatic memories leave imprints that are stored somatically and, although these “memories” may not be available to our conscious minds, they nevertheless influence all aspects of our health and personalities.

Traumatic imprints create psychological and behavioral patterns that tend to repeat themselves throughout life. Thus, if we were gestated in the womb of a mother who was not in a loving relationship with our father, we will carry an imprint of dysfunctional relating which will manifest and seek resolution during adolescence and adulthood. The imprint can effectively cause us to repetitively enter into unfulfilling and/or abusive relationships, as we re-create the traumatic conditions of our early wounding in order to find our way through to love. Unless we become conscious of this inter-generational pattern and heal it, we are likely to repeat it with our own children such that they, too, will be imprinted with dysfunctional relationship memories that can cause a lifetime of unsatisfying and/or abusive relationships. And the cycle continues.

Early traumatic experiences can include, but are not limited to:

- being in a womb where we are unwanted and/or where thoughts of abortion are contemplated

- being in a womb where our mother is experiencing deep emotional pain or chronic depression (the fetus is swimming in the hormonal/neurochemical make-up of its mother)

- being the product of a loveless sexual experience

- being in a womb that is filled with stress hormones due to the stress our parents (especially our mother’s) are under

- being exposed to toxic substances such as alcohol, nicotine, and illegal and prescription drugs while in the womb, at birth, or during the first two years of life

- being exposed to domestic violence or violence of any kind before, during or after birth

- being abandoned by one or both parents

All of the above experiences (and this is a very small sampling) can, and most often do, result in the underdevelopment of the human brain and the over-adrenalization of the nervous system. Biological deficiencies and traumatic compensations tend to compound over time and can lead to an adolescent and/or adult that has difficulty generating healthy behavior, satisfying relationships and a joyful life.

It is for this reason that it is imperative to offer an educational youth program that will raise awareness of the social conditions that are perpetuating this dis-ease and offer tools that will help our youth put an end to the lineage of abuse, maltreatment and dysfunction.

The program described below is geared toward youth and young adults between the ages of 13 and 30. It is designed to help change the way young people think about relationships, sexuality, pregnancy, birth, and parenting. It is also designed to provide youth with tools and knowledge that will help them heal their past and create a better future.

The curriculum outlined below encourages young people to understand the social implications of irresponsible sexual activity, thereby encouraging them to be in absolute integrity with their sexual behavior. Each class will stress the importance of being truly ready to bring forth life before becoming sexually active and, once this readiness is established, to seek a stable, committed, loving relationship and home before conceiving a child.

The curriculum is further designed to educate youth about the types of trauma that can occur during prenatal life, at birth, and during the first two years of life. This information has a variety of benefits including:

- helping youth become conscious of any trauma they, themselves, may have experienced in their own early life, thereby starting the process of conscious resolution;

- providing them with tools they can use to heal their own damaging imprints; and

- encouraging youth to make absolutely sure all the important pieces are in place BEFORE they become pregnant and have a child.

Emphasis will be placed on their capacity to make responsible choices, encouraging them to maintain a drug and alcohol-free environment at all times and trusting that, if they do choose to become pregnant after this program, they will have enough information to create the best possible circumstances for themselves and their babies.

The program consists of a 20-week intensive lecture, film, and experiential series that will utilize a combination of classroom-like discussions, auditory and visual aids, and on-going focus-group interactions.


I am a former adjunct college professor with a master’s degree in sociology and a minor in women’s studies. I’ve taught numerous classes at various SUNY schools on Long Island with my expertise being in the area of gender issues, human sexuality, pre and perinatal psychology, and conscious birth.

I have been an independent childbirth educator for the past 7 years, offering classes and workshops in preparation for conscious birth.

I am a certified Jin Shin teacher and practitioner, who emphasizes and teaches about the benefits of using subtle energy medicine for the resolution of primal shock and trauma. I have studied in-depth the impact that early trauma has on the human mind/body system, and, in particular, the ways in which prenatal and birth trauma effect the development of the fetal nervous system and the brain. I have learned how early overwhelming experiences can influence our personalities throughout life and can cause a variety of disorders later in life including, but not limited to, repetitive relationship problems, chronic health issues, drug and alcohol addiction, uncontrollable violence and criminal behavior, chemical imbalances in the brain, fertility issues, severe depression, and an inability to lead a joyful, healthy life.


The course you are about to review is designed to examine cultural practices and beliefs in the areas of sexuality, pregnancy, childbirth and parenting. By utilizing cross-cultural anthropological data, in combination with a critical analysis of American habits and customs, we will delve into the shadow side of how we have been conceiving, gestating and birthing our babies – and the impact that this is having on us as individuals, as families, and as a society. Through a combination of lecture, film and focus-group interactions, we will discuss, at length, the things that we can do to heal our past and create a better future for ourselves and our children – a future that will enable us to preserve love in our families forever and completely transform the quality of our civilization.

Part I – A Cross-Cultural Look at Human Sexuality

Weeks 1 & 2 – An overview of the social construction of “masculinity” and “femininity” how these cultural definitions impact our relationships and the way we think about sex and love.

Week 3 – An examination of the media and pornography and the impact they are having on our understanding of human sexuality.

Week 4 – A review of some of the most pertinent religious beliefs that Americans hold about gender, sexuality and childbirth, how this compares with indigenous cultures around the world, and how this is influencing the way we are conceiving, gestating and birthing our children.

Part II – A In-Depth Look at Pregnancy and Childbirth

This part of the course will offer in-depth information about the importance of our prenatal and birth experiences, and how they affect our lives and our civilization. We will look closely at hospital birthing practices and how technology can negatively influence gestation and birth. We will examine how the relationship between mother and father can affect baby’s brain development as well as its relational abilities later in life. We will learn about the importance of the mother-infant bond and how this bond begins to build in the earliest stages of gestation and can create a lifetime of healthy relating or its opposite. We will discuss, in-depth, the types of trauma that can occur during the various stages of gestation and at birth and how these traumas affect our later lives. We will also look closely at ways to prevent prenatal and birth trauma, and examine tools we can use to reorganize our own neurology and brain chemistry to repattern our own unhealthy imprints.

Weeks 5 & 6 – An examination of the pre-conception environment and an exploration how we can prepare ourselves for a love-filled conscious conception.

Weeks 7 & 8 – An overview of life in the womb and how our experiences during the first nine months of life can affect our health and personality throughout life.

Week 9 – An examination of the significance of mother’s emotions during gestation and at birth and how they impact the neurology, brain chemistry, physiology and psychology of the fetus. Included here will be a discussion about parental love and how mother’s relationship with father plays a very important role in our brain development, our personality, and our capacity to develop healthy love relationships later in life.

Weeks 10-13 – An examination of modern birthing practices and the impact of technological interventions during gestation and childbirth (including review of several pertinent films including Pregnant in America and The Business of Being Born).

Week 14 – An overview of the significance of the mother/infant bond and the impact on the parent/child relationship and the psychological health of mother and child if this bond is interfered with.

Week 15 – Viewing of the film “Birth As We Know It.”

Weeks 16 & 17 – How to heal our past trauma with Jin Shin and prepare for conscious birth.

Part III – Conscious Parenting

Week 18 – Attachment parenting – the importance of holding the baby, sleeping with the baby, and making sure the baby and the mother are properly nurtured and cared-for

Week 19 – Discussion about the physical and emotional benefits of breast-feeding, and provide info about lactation support and/or post partum doula support.

Week 20 – An in-depth look at vaccinations