Monday, May 31, 2010

LESSONS OF LOVE BEGIN IN THE WOMB

This note was written on January 31, 2010

As Valentine’s Day approaches and visions of romance dance through our heads, it is a good time to take stock of whether we feel satisfied with the quality of love we have experienced in our lives. While some may feel tremendous satisfaction, others are still longing for a connection to the real deal. No matter where we find ourselves along this continuum, it can be empowering to understand that our current reality is deeply connected to our earliest life experiences.



Just as goslings will follow the first thing they see when they emerge from their eggs (even if it is a fox going into a fox den), so too, humans carry psycho-physiological imprints that encode us with information about love. Our imprints are based on the thoughts, feelings and experiences of our parents during our conception, gestation and birth, combined with our own unique interpretation of these events. Imprints influence our perception about what qualifies as “love,” and are often at the root of the cross-wiring that can occur, causing many to confuse abuse with love.

Conception creates the spark for our earliest imprint and lays the foundation for our future understanding of love. Whether we were conceived in love and whether we were wanted are two significant indicators of our future capacity to experience healthy love. What were our parents thinking and feeling at the moment we were conceived? How did they feel about each other? How did they feel about the sex they were having? Was there shame involved? Fear? Aggression? Was pornography part of their consciousness? Prostitution? Sado-masochism?

How did our parents respond when they discovered our presence in the womb? Were we welcomed and embraced, or was abortion considered? Was our womb experience nurturing? Or was it toxic (emotionally and/or physically) and uncomfortable? What was the relationship like between our parents while we were gestating? Was there deep love and support between the two? Or was there fighting and stress, and perhaps even talk of separation?

What about our birth? Were we born in a harsh technological setting? Exposed to bright lights, cold temperatures, loud noises and people wearing masks? Was our mother drugged, unconscious or c-sectioned? Was our father present? Who handled us as we emerged from the womb? Were we handled with loving sensitivity or were harsh hospital protocols inflicted upon us with little regard for our spiritual and emotional needs? Were we separated from our mother at birth? Left in a nursery to cry? Were we breastfed on demand or fed formula on a hospital feeding schedule?

All of these early life experiences affect our understanding of what love is, and they strongly influence our current capacity to generate/create healthy experiences of love. Once we begin to recognize that our earliest memories influence our current situation, the healing has begun.

If you are interested to learn more, please tune-in to my weekly radio show at:
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RITUALS OF DARKNESS VS. RITUALS OF LOVE

This talk focused on the rituals of birth in the United States, with a strong emphasis on the shadow side of birth as it is being played out in American society. From babies being conceived through haphazard or lustful sex, to hospitals clamping the umbilical cord immediately after birth and selling our children's placental blood to the highest bidder, to baby boys being ritually sexually violated before they are eight days old by having a piece of their penis cut off, WITHOUT ANESTHESIA... the United States is one of the highest ranking countries engaged in rituals of darkness when it comes to the conception, gestation and birth of our children.

In the U.S., millions of babies are conceived unconsciously, in back seats of cars or other profane environments. Pregnant moms regularly contemplate (or actually have) abortions, while fathers are leaving their families in droves. Parents habitually expose themselves and their unborn children to environmental and emotional toxins, and hospitals are engaged in some of the most violent and abusive protocols and procedures known to humankind during the process of birth. Induction, augmentation, narcotics, pitocin, epidural, anesthesia, fetal heart monitors screwed into babies' heads, vacuums, forceps, episiotomies, c-sections, separating mother and child... the list of abuses seems endless. Clearly, the United States has come very far from honoring the sanctity of childbirth and this is negatively influencing our children, our families, our society and our species.

If humans are to connect with their full spiritual capacity to become conscious co-creators with God, it is imperative that we engage in rituals of love to honor the processes of conception, pregnancy and birth. These rituals should begin before adolescence, such that we find ways to honor the cycles of menstruation in girls and the transition to manhood in boys. Other rituals could include the ceremonial release of traumatic prenatal and birth memories (prior to conception), ceremonies during which we call forth our babies and conceive them consciously, ceremonies to welcome our babies into our wombs, rites-of-passage rituals for parents-to-be (i.e., such as blessingways which honor the transition to parenthood), lotus birth, ceremonial honoring of the placenta, naming ceremonies, ceremonies of welcoming after birth, etc. These types of rituals would not only reinstate the sacredness of birth but would also support the expanded consciousness of incoming souls and the transformation of our species and our planet.

Artwork by Arthur Kip Herring

COMMENTS ABOUT "BREASTS IN MOURNING: HOW BOTTLE-FEEDING MIMICS CHILD LOSS IN MOTHER'S BRAINS"

Please read this article:
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=bottlefeeding-mimics-mourning

It has triggered an enormous activation of understanding within my being.

How many of you have heard of and/or understand the concept of "traumatic repetition" (i.e., the process by which humans tend to re-create the feelings and experiences of unresolved past wounding again and again)? An example of this would be if we were gestated in a womb where our parents were having a toxic, non-loving relationship, we will carry an imprint for dysnctional relationships that will tend to manifest as we grow into adulthood -- i.e, we'll tend to attract and create toxic, non-loving relationships. We re-create the patterns of our original wounding not because we are sadistic, but because we are attempting to reach resolution.

This process of traumatic reptition is inter-generational, such that children tend to carry/inherit the unresolved patterns of their parents -- unless, of course, their parents have become conscious of the patterns and worked toward resolving them. As long as the patterns of wounding remain unconscious and unresolved, they will get passed on from generation to generation and tend be re-enacted and re-created in an effort to bring them to consciousness and resolve them.

OK. Hope you are following me so far and hope also that you will read this entire entry.

My grandmother gave birth to a baby boy that was killed by medical "professionals." They pulled the baby out with forceps using such force and intensity, they gave him a brain hemorrhage and he died.

It is my belief that my grandmother never really worked through her grief about this loss (blaming herself for having a baby that was "too big" rather than acknowledging the brutality of the doctors and the violence that she and her baby were subjected to during this birth.) Since my grandmother never resolved the loss, and my mother was the next baby through my grandmother's haunted womb, my mom carried the memories of unresolved grief related to childbirth,which, as I have just discovered, played itself out when she gave birth to her own children. My mom's "choice" not to breastfeed me (or my sister or brother), was her unconscious way of re-creating the neurobiology of mourning and grief that her mother had experienced in childbirth. Wow! This is so amazing.

My mother, following in the footsteps of her mother, never sought to process or resolve this childbirth grief, so it was passed on to me (as well as her other children).

I re-created the same neurobiology of mourning and grief in childbirth by having several miscarriages (and other tragedies in childbirth) and ultimately giving birth to a full-term, stillborn child.

My sister re-created the grief by "choosing" to have a fully medicalized birth, being induced and c-sectioned, etc. The administering of drugs like pitocin during childbirth -- i.e., synthetic oxytocin -- virtually gaurantees that the neurobiology of love will not activate in a birthing mother since her brain will not produce the natural chemicals of love if/when their synthetic counterparts are introduced into the system. Instead, the neurobiology of grief will activate.

My sister never breastfed her daughter. My brother's children were never breastfed either.

Wow! The lineage of trauma is amazing.

The good news is...... THE BUCK STOPS WITH ME!!!! I am now conscious of the original wounding which makes it possible for the lineage of trauma to end. From here on out, any children born through me will NOT be condemned to suffer the same wounding.

Blessed are the ones who are willing to heal their family lineage.



Anyone interested to read my story, you can find it here:
http://ecstaticbirth.wordpress.com/articles/from-trauma-to-ecstasy/

It would mean alot to me to share it with you as this is part of my healing.

Please check out this quote from the article named above, which triggered so much integration for me.

How utterly amazing.

"....According to a new theory being proposed by University of Albany evolutionary psychologist Gordon Gallup and his colleagues, the decision to bottle-feed is tantamount, in the mother’s psyche, to mourning the loss of the child. At least, that’s how a woman’s body seems to respond to the absence of a suckling infant at its breasts in the wake of a successful childbirth. In a soon-to-be-published article in Medical Hypotheses, the authors argue that bottle-feeding simulates the unsettling ancestral condition of an infant’s death:

Opting not to breastfeed precludes and/or brings all of the processes involved in lactation to a halt. For most of human evolution the absence or early cessation of breastfeeding would have been occasioned by miscarriage, loss, or death of a child. We contend, therefore, that at the level of her basic biology a mother’s decision to bottle feed unknowingly simulates child loss...'



Here's another article on this topic:

‎"Opting not to breastfeed precludes and/or brings all of the processes involved in lactation to a halt. For most of human evolution the absence or early cessation of breastfeeding would have been occasioned by the miscarriage, loss, or death of a child. We contend, therefore, that at the level of her basic biology a mother’s decision to bottle feed unknowingly simulates child loss. The death of a child is a well documented trigger for profound parental grief and depression, and evidence shows that mothers tend to be more affected than fathers. Suarez and Gallup theorize that depression in response to the death of a child may be an adaptive mechanism that functions to (1) punish instances of inappropriate parenting or neglect, and (2) trigger social and psychological support from close friends and relatives during the particularly difficult period following the loss of an infant (see also. Because bottle feeding simulates child loss at a physiological level it may also play an important role in postpartum depression. Consistent with this analysis, there is growing evidence that bottle feeding is a significant risk factor for postpartum depression. Some claim that breastfeeding can reduce the incidence of postpartum depression by as much as 50%. Additional evidence in support of our hypothesis comes from the fact that post- partum depression is not an uncommon response to weaning. Because weaning results in the cessation of milk production in much the same way that bottle feeding does, weaning/involution can also be thought of as mimicking child loss. We recently completed a study of over 50 mothers recruited through local pediatric offices at 4–6 weeks postpartum. Consistent with previous reports, we found that those who bottle fed their babies scored significantly higher on the Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale than those engaged in breastfeeding. The increased risk of depression among mothers who relied on bottle feeding held true even after we controlled for such things as age, education, income, and the mother’s relationship with her current partner."

Bottle feeding simulates child loss: Postpartum depression and evolutionary medicine
http://www.albany.edu/news/images/GGallupbottlefeeding.pdf

ON CUTTING THE UMBILICAL CORD IMMEDIATELY AFTER BIRTH AND SELLING THE PLACENTA AND PLACENTAL BLOOD TO THE HIGHEST BIDDER....

The latest information about hospitals charging for and/or selling placentas (and placental blood) is absolutely sickening. During the World Birth Summit, powerful indigenous wisdom was brought forth regarding the placenta and its relationship to the human soul. In Bali (and elsewhere), fathers have a very important role to play in protecting the placenta and the placental blood -- and seeing to it that proper spiritual protocol is followed in order to ensure that the child will be protected from the influence of spiritual demons.

This may sound superstitious to some, but with all the reading I have done about the reptilian and satanic influence on our planet, I am convinced that the selling of placentas and placental blood is directly related to the hospital's [perhaps unwitting] compliance in FEEDING the satanic entities who are running our governments and our social institutions. These entities habitually "eat the body and drink the blood" of human beings -- and they are very good at convincing other humans to participate in these sickening satanic rituals (Christians beware!). They favor the body and blood of infants (believing it has more spiritual potency) and are doing these rituals in order to harness the power of innocent humans and manipulate their spiritual consciousness.

This may sound extremely harsh and terrifying to some -- and maybe some will think I'm crazy. But if we are willing to step back and really look at what is happening, a very clear picture begins to emerge.

The cutting of the umbilical cord immediately after birth has no known health benefits and, on the contrary, creates sickly infants with highly traumatized nervous systems. THIS IS INTENTIONAL!

The reason they are cutting the cord immediately after birth is twofold: (i) to gather the placental blood -- blood that should have gone to the baby but instead is going to feed these creatures; and (ii) to traumatize the nervous system of the infant, making it impossible for the neurobiology of love to activate within the child, hindering the child's brain development and its capacity to experience love, and rendering it very difficult for the child to access information through the higher centers of the brain (for spiritual awareness). Trauma-based mind control is the name of the game, and it is used to render humans much more easy to control and manipulate.

THIS is what hospitals are engaged in and it is imperative that we snap out the trance we have been in and wake up to their game.

WHY ARE WOMEN EXPERIENCING PAIN IN CHILDBIRTH AND WHAT CAN WE DO TO RECLAIM OUR INNATE CAPACITY TO GIVE BIRTH WITH EASE AND JOY?

Women tend to give birth the way themselves were birthed. Therefore, a woman who is born to parents that deeply loved and wanted her, in an atmosphere of love and support, will hold memories of birth that will assist her to give birth to her own children with ease and joy. On the other hand, a woman who is born in an environment of fear and trauma -- such as a hospital -- or to a mother that was terrified, drugged, and/or unconscious -- will tend to have unpleasant memories of birth which will hinder her capacity to feel safe during the birth process and interfere with her ability to give birth with joy.

Unconscious traumatic memories are held in the system somatically. Although the mind may not remember these early events, the body remembers. During pregnancy and childbirth, these unresolved memories are likely to “activate” and can negatively influence a woman's capacity to give birth with ease.

Traumatic memories cause the body to lock-up in fear during the birth process, which creates pain and makes birth very difficult. Moreover, conditions of the original wounding often get re-created during the birth process (recapitulation) such that a woman may re-experience the trauma of her own birth while simultaneously and unwittingly passing on the wounding to her own child. Thus begins the lineage and legacy of trauma.

One of the most important things women and their partners can do to ensure a gentle and/or ecstatic birth is to make sure they have explored their own prenatal and birth experiences and worked toward healing any unresolved trauma. This work should ideally be done prior to conception and is especially important for people who were born in hospitals. The healing of early trauma enables the spirit/body/mind system to be cleared of negative influences, thus ensuring a much better chance of creating a joyous, love-filled birth.

The influence of unresolved early trauma cannot be overstated. Humans that have endured early trauma often lead very traumatic lives. A brain that has been "wired" for trauma often re-creates that trauma throughout life. We are living in a very traumatic reality precisely because so many of us are suffering from unconscious, unresolved traumatic memories.

All of this could change in one generation if we simply give our full attention to healing our original wounds and teaching future parents to do the same. It is imperative to educate future parents about the impact of early trauma and the importance of breaking the cycle through conscious procreation. Conceiving babies consciously, gestating them in trauma-free wombs, birthing them in the most gentle and loving environments possible, and parenting them in the most loving and supportive way are keys . Babies that are born without trauma will have a much greater neurological capacity to generate a reality of love, which will transform our experience of the Earth dimension and reunite our species with it's original blueprint for love.

GRIEF VS. LOVE - which shall we choose?



SUMMARY OF MY PRESENTATIONS AT THE WORLD BIRTH SUMMIT - DAMANHUR, ITALY - MAY 5-9, 2010

PRESENTATION #1 - MAY 6, 2010 - WHY ARE WOMEN EXPERIENCING PAIN IN CHILDBIRTH AND WHAT CAN WE DO TO RECLAIM OUR INNATE CAPACITY TO GIVE BIRTH WITH EASE AND JOY?

Women tend to give birth the way themselves were birthed. Therefore, a woman who is born to parents that deeply loved and wanted her, in an atmosphere of love and support, will hold memories of birth that will assist her to give birth to her own children with ease and joy. On the other hand, a woman who is born in an environment of fear and trauma -- such as a hospital -- or to a mother that was terrified, drugged, and/or unconscious -- will tend to have unpleasant memories of birth which will hinder her capacity to feel safe during the birth process and interfere with her ability to give birth with joy.

Unconscious traumatic memories are held in the system somatically. Although the mind may not remember these early events, the body remembers. During pregnancy and childbirth, these unresolved memories are likely to “activate” and can negatively influence a woman's capacity to give birth with ease.

Traumatic memories cause the body to lock-up in fear during the birth process, which creates pain and makes birth very difficult. Moreover, conditions of the original wounding often get re-created during the birth process (recapitulation) such that a woman may re-experience the trauma of her own birth while simultaneously and unwittingly passing on the wounding to her own child. Thus begins the lineage and legacy of trauma.

One of the most important things women and their partners can do to ensure a gentle and/or ecstatic birth is to make sure they have explored their own prenatal and birth experiences and worked toward healing any unresolved trauma. This work should ideally be done prior to conception and is especially important for people who were born in hospitals. The healing of early trauma enables the spirit/body/mind system to be cleared of negative influences, thus ensuring a much better chance of creating a joyous, love-filled birth.

The influence of unresolved early trauma cannot be overstated. Humans that have endured early trauma often lead very traumatic lives. A brain that has been "wired" for trauma often re-creates that trauma throughout life. We are living in a very traumatic reality precisely because so many of us are suffering from unconscious, unresolved traumatic memories.

All of this could change in one generation if we simply give our full attention to healing our original wounds and teaching future parents to do the same. It is imperative to educate future parents about the impact of early trauma and the importance of breaking the cycle through conscious procreation. Conceiving babies consciously, gestating them in trauma-free wombs, birthing them in the most gentle and loving environments possible, and parenting them in the most loving and supportive way are keys . Babies that are born without trauma will have a much greater neurological capacity to generate a reality of love, which will transform our experience of the Earth dimension and reunite our species with it's original blueprint for love.


PRESENTATION #2 - May 8, 2010 - RITUALS OF DARKNESS VS. RITUALS OF LOVE

This talk focused on the rituality of birth in the United States, with a strong emphasis on the shadow side of birth as it is being played out in American society. From babies being conceived through haphazard or lustful sex, to hospitals clamping the umbilical cord immediately after birth and selling our children's placental blood to the highest bidder, to baby boys being ritually sexually violated before they are eight days old by having a piece of their penis cut off, WITHOUT ANESTHESIA... the United States is one of the highest ranking countries engaged in rituals of darkness when it comes to the conception, gestation and birth of our children.

In the U.S., millions of babies are conceived unconsciously, in back seats of cars or other profane environments. Pregnant moms regularly contemplate (or actually have) abortions, while fathers are leaving their families in droves. Parents habitually expose themselves and their unborn children to environmental and emotional toxins, and hospitals are engaged in some of the most violent and abusive protocols and procedures known to humankind during the process of birth. Induction, augmentation, narcotics, pitocin, epidural, anesthesia, fetal heart monitors screwed into babies' heads, vacuums, forceps, episiotomies, c-sections, separating mother and child... the list of abuses seems endless. Clearly, the United States has come very far from honoring the sanctity of childbirth and this is negatively influencing our children, our families, our society and our species.

If humans are to connect with their full spiritual capacity to become conscious co-creators with God, it is imperative that we engage in rituals of love to honor the processes of conception, pregnancy and birth. These rituals should begin before adolescence, such that we find ways to honor the cycles of menstruation in girls and the transition to manhood in boys. Other rituals could include the ceremonial release of traumatic prenatal and birth memories (prior to conception), ceremonies during which we call forth our babies and conceive them consciously, ceremonies to welcome our babies into our wombs, rites-of-passage rituals for parents-to-be (i.e., such as blessingways which honor the transition to parenthood), lotus birth, ceremonial honoring of the placenta, naming ceremonies, ceremonies of welcoming after birth, etc. These types of rituals would not only reinstate the sacredness of birth but would also support the expanded consciousness of incoming souls and the transformation of our species and our planet.

Joyous Love vs. Trauma and Grief - Which Shall We Choose?









THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEX AND LOVE

Recently I was asked by a colleague to write a short essay on the difference between sex and love. Here are my musings:

SEX and LOVE are definitely not the same thing. Although the words are often used interchangeably in our society, there are some very important distinctions that should be made regarding the nature of sex and love and the quality of the experience that each provides.

The word “sex,” can be used in a variety of different contexts, such as to describe the difference between male and female and/or to describe the activity of sexual intercourse.

Some people argue that intercourse is the only form of sexual activity that qualifies as “sex,” while others use the word sex to describe various forms of sexual behavior including oral sex, anal sex, masturbation, and all forms of sensual touch engaged in for the purpose of creating sexual arousal.

The activity of “sex” can result in an orgasm which provides the human body with an experience of physical pleasure. This physical pleasure can be brilliant and powerful, however, it is also fleeting and short-lived, and in some instances, can be followed by longer-term feelings of emotional, spiritual and psychological loss and depletion. This is especially true if sex is engaged in outside of the bonds of authentic love.

The activity of sex can also lead to the conception of children. However, it is important to note that babies conceived as a result of a lustful or loveless sexual encounter are often unwanted, which causes them to suffer -- both in the womb and at birth and beyond -- and can result in an adult who has life-long difficulty generating authentic experiences of love.

Children conceived through lustful or loveless sex are often perceived as draining or burdensome to their parents – whereas children who are purposefully conceived in a mutual explosion of love can provide feelings of restoration and renewal to their parents.

The mainstream media promote lustful and pornographic sex, as does the culture of “masculinity” in western society (i.e., a society that has come very far from understanding the truth of how the sacred masculine energy was intended to express itself). The media would have us believe that sex based on carnal desire will lead us to joy. However, nothing could be further from the truth. Sex engaged in solely for the purpose of fulfilling carnal desires will lead us away from love.

Pornographic sex (i.e., bodies without heads or hearts grabbing, rubbing and banging against each other) can cause incredible pain to the human psyche and spirit because this type of sex is devoid of spiritual depth and connection. Two bodies coming together for the sole purpose of experiencing fleeting moments of physical pleasure can leave participants feeling empty and short-changed once the sexual encounter is complete. This emptiness can be deep and profound, leading participants to engage in numerous sexual encounters in the hopes of someday experiencing "the real deal." This is what we call sexual addiction.

The “real deal,” ironically, has nothing to do with carnal desire or physical pleasure, per se, but involves two people coming together with profound spiritual intent to engage in lovemaking for the express purpose of co-creation with God in the form of bringing forth new life.

This type of “sex” will most definitely activate the neurobiology of love in both participants and leave a lasting, love-filled imprint on both mother and father as well as the child being conceived.

“Love,” is the energy that creates universes. It is all-pervasive and all-powerful.

At their core, humans ARE love and are able to experience their essence when circumstances and conditions allow for the neurobiology of love to activate within their physical vehicles (i.e., the human body).

In a context of absolute spiritual safety and trust, humans can undergo physiological, hormonal, and neurochemical changes in the brain which will trigger a release of oxytocin and endorphins into the system, activating an experience of “love.” This neurochemical experience does not require “sex” to activate, but can be triggered by something as simple as eye-gazing, such as when a new mother gazes into the eyes of her newly born babe and suddenly experiences deep and profound sensations of extreme joy and well-being – sensations which will be remembered throughout life.



The energy of love can also be felt as heart-center sensations of expansion and opening, and can cause alterations in conscious perception, enabling the experiencer to connect with a much expanded version of themselves or "God."

Due to the extremely high levels of trauma that most humans are experiencing in the womb, at birth, and within the first two years life, it has become increasingly difficult for us, as a species, to maintain our connection to our essence and to produce authentic experiences of love. We are, in effect, a brain damaged species, and this is making it more difficult for our systems to activate the neurobiology of love in our bodies.

To compound our troubles, we are being conditioned/manipulated to “have sex” in ways that are deeply wounding to the human psyche and spirit. This is moving us further away from our essence and from what we really want – i.e., to experience a love-filled life and to live in a culture that knows the secret to preserving love in families forever.

Getting clear about the distinction between sex and love – and adjusting our behavior accordingly—is key to our healing.